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<pubDate>Thu, 11 Mar 2010 03:36:25 -0500</pubDate>
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<title>Preliminary Hearing Scheduled for Gardner</title>
<link>http://instantamber.com/news/gardner-to-appear-in-court/</link>
<description><![CDATA[ <p><img height="145" align="right" width="250" src="http://instantamber.com/boltuploads/image/john gardner chelsea king.jpg" alt="john gardner chelsea king" />John Albert Gardner III, 30, is charged in the murder and possible rape of 17 year-old <a target="_blank" href="http://instantamber.com/news/chelsea-king/">Chelsea King</a>. Gardner appeared in court on Tuesday, March 9, 2010 for a status hearing. Gardner is linked to the crime by DNA on a piece of King&amp;rsquo;s clothing found on the shore of Lake Hodges in Rancho Bernardo Community Park where King went missing. Law enforcement arrested Gardner, a registered sex offender, on February 28 in Escondido. <br />
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The preliminary hearing is scheduled for August 4, 2010. A gag order has also been issued in the case, which prohibits law enforcement and attorneys from releasing any information or opinions concerning the trial, or evidence related to any investigation related to Gardner.<br />
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In 2000, Gardner was charged with three counts of forcible lewd act upon a child and one count of false imprisonment by violence, menace, fraud or deceit in a case involving a 13 year-old girl. He pled guilty on two counts of forcible lewd act and one count of false imprisonment by violence. Gardner was sentenced to six years in prison, served five and was on probation until 2008. <br />
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In addition to the charges in relation to the Chelsea King case, Gardner is being charged for sexually assaulting a woman in the same Rancho Bernardo park on December 27. Investigators are also focusing on him in <a target="_blank" href="http://instantamber.com/news/amber-dubois-linked-to-chelsea-king-case/">connection to the Amber Dubois</a> case, a 14 year-old girl who went missing February 13, 2009, in nearby Escondido on her way to school. <a target="_blank" href="http://instantamber.com/news/amber-dubois-body-found/">Amber's remains were found</a> March 7, 2010 in Pala.&amp;nbsp;</p> ]]></description>
<pubDate>Tue, 09 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0500</pubDate>
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<title>Amber Dubois Body Found</title>
<link>http://instantamber.com/news/amber-dubois-body-found/</link>
<description><![CDATA[ <p><img height="250" align="right" width="212" src="http://instantamber.com/boltuploads/image/Amber%20L_%20Dubois.jpg" alt="amber dubois body found" />On Sunday March 7, 2010, a little over a year after 14 year-old Amber Dubois went missing, her remains were found in the rural San Diego suburb of Pala. The search for Amber Dubois was reignited after the disappearance of 17 year-old Chelsea King in the nearby suburb of Poway. There is a <a href="http://instantamber.com/news/amber-dubois-linked-to-chelsea-king-case/" target="_blank">possible link</a> between the two cases. <br />
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Escondido police, San Diego County Sheriffs Department and the FBI are currently investigating the case. At the news conference on Sunday, no suspects were mentioned.<br />
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Amber Dubois went missing on February 13, 2009 on her way to Escondido High School in Escondido, California. She left for her short walk to school with a $200 check to purchase a lamp through her school&amp;rsquo;s Future Farmers of America project. Amber never arrived at school that day and the check was never deposited. Investigators suspected she was abducted. For months, Amber&amp;rsquo;s family and friends searched for her alongside law enforcement and private investigators.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; &amp;nbsp;</p> ]]></description>
<pubDate>Mon, 08 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0500</pubDate>
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<title>College Student Missing</title>
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<description><![CDATA[ <p><img height="150" align="left" width="200" alt="Jay Polhill missing" src="http://instantamber.com/boltuploads/image/Jay Polhill.jpg" /><strong>Update</strong><br />
A body found Tuesday in the Calumet River in Chicago has been identified as Jay Polihill&amp;rsquo;s. The 20-year old college student majoring in photography was reported missing Monday morning. <br />
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Jay grew up in Lena, Illinois. According to the <a target="_blank" href="http://www.journalstandard.com/obituaries/x182992306/OBITUARY-Jay-R-Polhill">Journal-Standard</a>, &amp;ldquo;He was blessed with an insatiable sense of humor and boundless energy, and photography was his passion. He was adventurous, spontaneous and enjoyed hanging out and visiting with his friends.&amp;rdquo;<br />
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<strong>Missing: Jay Pohill</strong><br />
Family and friends of Jay Polhill are reaching out to the Internet in hopes of finding the 20-year old Columbia College Chicago student. He was last seen at his dormitory on Sunday, February 28. A missing persons report was filed with the Chicago Police. <br />
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Jay is described as approximately 5&amp;rsquo; 5&amp;rdquo; tall and has dark, wavy hair. If you have any information about this case, call Chicago Crime Stoppers at 800-535-STOP.</p> ]]></description>
<pubDate>Thu, 04 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0500</pubDate>
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<title>Amber Dubois linked to Chelsea King case</title>
<link>http://instantamber.com/news/amber-dubois-linked-to-chelsea-king-case/</link>
<description><![CDATA[ <p><strong>Amber Leeanne Dubois</strong><br />
<a href="http://www.bringamberhome.com/" target="_blank"><img height="118" align="left" width="100" src="http://instantamber.com/boltuploads/image/Amber%20L_%20Dubois.jpg" alt="Amber Dubois" class="" /></a>On February 13, 2009 at around 7:10 a.m., 14 year old Amber vanished on the way to her high school, Escondido High School in California. She was last seen wearing black jeans, black sneakers, and a black hoodie. She weighed 130 pounds, measured 5'5&amp;quot;, and has blue eyes and short brown hair.</p>
<p>On February 26, 2010, 17 year-old <a href="http://instantamber.com/news/chelsea-king/" target="_blank">Chelsea King</a> never came home from a run at the Rancho Bernardo Community Park in Poway, California. DNA found on her clothing was run through the National DNA database and was identified as DNA belonging to John Gardner, a 30 year-old registered sex offender. Investigators found what they believe to be King's body in the area where she had gone running. Gardner was arrested in Escondido and is currently being charged with the murder of Chelsea King. <br />
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Police are currently investigating if Gardner is linked to the Amber Dubois case. Gardner's parole ended in 2008 and he lives in the area where Amber and Chelsea went missing.</p>
<p>If you have information, <strong>please call 760-743-TIPS.</strong> If you think you have seen Amber, <strong>call your local police department or 911 and reference case #09-02290.</strong> For more information on this case, please visit <a href="http://www.bringamberhome.com/" target="_blank">www.BringAmberHome.com</a>.</p> ]]></description>
<pubDate>Thu, 04 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0500</pubDate>
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<title>Chelsea King</title>
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<description><![CDATA[ <p>It was a Thursday afternoon in the San Diego, California suburb of Poway. Nothing seemed unusual when 17 year-old Chelsea King parked her car in the Rancho Bernardo Community Park parking lot. The Poway High School senior was going on jog. An avid runner and member of her school&amp;rsquo;s cross-country team, she ran the trails around the park often. She ran on that Thursday afternoon of February 26 with everything ahead of her, but as Chelsea looked ahead to graduation and college, someone else was determined to demolish her dreams.<br />
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<img height="135" align="left" width="180" alt="chelsea king murdered" src="http://instantamber.com/boltuploads/image/chelsea king.jpg" /><em>Chelsea King's disappearance </em><br />
Chelsea did not return home that evening. When her father, Brent King, found her locked car in the parking lot of the lakeside park, he knew she was missing.<br />
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Word spread quickly through the community about Chelsea&amp;rsquo;s disappearance. Thousands of volunteers searched the area about Lake Hodges through the weekend for the missing girl. Described as bright, smart, funny, both friends, families and strangers banded together to find the beautiful, young girl. <br />
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<img height="300" align="left" width="152" alt="chelsea king map" src="http://instantamber.com/boltuploads/image/chelsea missing map.jpg" />Arrest of sex-offender in missing California teen case</em><br />
John Albert Gardner III, 30, was arrested Sunday after evidence linked him to Chelsea King&amp;rsquo;s disappearance. Gardner was registered sex offender. In 2000, Gardner pleaded guilty to charges for molesting a 13 year-old girl. Following 5 years in prison, Gardner&amp;rsquo;s parole ended in 2008. Police also believe Gardner may be linked to a December attack on a young, female jogging in the same park. <br />
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<em>Missing teen's body likely found</em><br />
Tuesday afternoon, a body was found that the sheriff says is a &amp;ldquo;strong likelihood&amp;rdquo; that the body is Chelsea King&amp;rsquo;s. A diver found the body in a shallow grave on a wooded tributary of Lake Hodges. On Tuesday night thousands of people joined Brent and Kelly King in a candlelight vigil at St. Michael&amp;rsquo;s Catholic Church. <br />
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<em>Gardner charged in Chelsea King case</em><br />
Criminal charges for the murder of Chelsea King will be pressed against John Gardner on Wednesday.</p> ]]></description>
<pubDate>Wed, 03 Mar 2010 00:00:00 -0500</pubDate>
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<title>Missing Texas Sisters</title>
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<description><![CDATA[ <p>Two runaway sisters from Texas are missing and believed to be endangered. Elsa Fitch, 16 and her sister Celia Fitch 15, were last seen on February 11, 2010 at their home in Spring Branch, Texas. The girls were discovered missing when the family woke up the morning of February 12.&amp;nbsp; <br />
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<img height="250" align="left" width="197" alt="elsa fitch" src="http://instantamber.com/boltuploads/image/elsa-fitch(1).jpg" />The girls disappeared sometime in the night with their passports, social security cards, medical and school records. They also cleaned out their personal bank accounts. Friends at school report that the girls told them they were going to Florida or California. <br />
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The parents suspect that the girls ran away with someone they met online. Around the holidays, the parents were concerned by Elsa&amp;rsquo;s frequent Internet use and took away her computer privileges. Elsa has been communicating with a particular woman in San Diego, CA called &amp;ldquo;Tristan&amp;rdquo; for several months. They spoke on the phone frequently and online about witchcraft and role playing. The woman also sent a package to the Fitch&amp;rsquo;s home recently.&amp;nbsp; <br />
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<img height="250" align="left" width="198" alt="celia fitch" src="http://instantamber.com/boltuploads/image/celia-fitch.jpg" />A private investigator has been hired for the case. Anyone that has any information on the case should contact Comal County Sheriff's Office (Texas) 1-830-620-3400 or National Center for Missing &amp;amp; Exploited Children 1-800-843-5678 (1-800-THE-LOST).</p> ]]></description>
<pubDate>Wed, 24 Feb 2010 00:00:00 -0500</pubDate>
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<title>Free Child Safety Webinar</title>
<link>http://instantamber.com/news/free-child-safety-webinar/</link>
<description><![CDATA[ <p><strong>Feb. 23/24 Webinar Rescheudled</strong> for March 2 at 8pm CST and March 3 at 11am CST. Please email  <a href="mailto:marketing@instantamber.com?subject=Webinar%20Question">marketing@instantamber.com</a> with any questions or concerns. Updated webinar information will be posted as soon as possible. <br />
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InstantAmber is proud to present free webinars hosted by WebEx. Matt Berman, founder of InstantAmber and child safety expert, will be hosting the next webinar on <strong>March 2 at 8pm CST</strong> and <strong>March 3 at 11am CST</strong>. Our aim with the brief half-hour session is to discuss issues facing parents today and how InstantAmber can help. We will also review InstantAmber&amp;rsquo;s service and the independent sales rep program for <a target="_blank" href="https://instantamber.com/team/">Community Safety Coordinators</a>. The webinar will end with a question and answer session.<br />
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Follow the instructions below to join the webinar. Email <a href="mailto:marketing@instantamber.com?subject=Webinar%20Question">marketing@instantamber.com</a> with any questions. <br />
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<strong>Date: Tuesday, March 2, 2010<br />
</strong>Time: 8:00 pm, Central Standard Time (Chicago, GMT-06:00)<br />
Meeting Number: 807 562 540<br />
Password: <strong>March</strong><br />
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1. Go to <a target="_blank" href="https://instantamber.webex.com/instantamber/j.php?ED=133479477&amp;amp;UID=0">https://instantamber.webex.com/instantamber/j.php?ED=133479477&amp;amp;UID=0</a><br />
2. Enter your name and email address.<br />
3. Enter the meeting password: March<br />
4. Click &amp;quot;Join&amp;quot;.<br />
5. If the meeting includes a teleconference, follow the instructions that appear on your screen.&amp;nbsp;</p>
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<p><strong> Date: Wednesday, March 3, 2010</strong><br />
Time: 11:00 am, Central Standard Time (Chicago, GMT-06:00)<br />
Meeting Number: 803 506 596<br />
Password: <strong>March</strong><br />
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1. Go to <a target="_blank" href="https://instantamber.webex.com/instantamber/j.php?ED=133479307&amp;amp;UID=0">https://instantamber.webex.com/instantamber/j.php?ED=133479307&amp;amp;UID=0</a><br />
2. Enter your name and email address.<br />
3. Enter the meeting password: March<br />
4. Click &amp;quot;Join&amp;quot;.<br />
5. If the meeting includes a teleconference, follow the instructions that appear on your screen.<strong><br />
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<pubDate>Tue, 23 Feb 2010 00:00:00 -0500</pubDate>
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<title>Missing: Brittanee Drexel</title>
<link>http://instantamber.com/news/missing-brittanee-drexel/</link>
<description><![CDATA[ <p>InstantAmber and <a target="_blank" href="http://nationalvigilforhope.org/">The National Vigil for Hope</a> are hopeful of finding more missing children and bringing them home safely. Please help us spread the word about the missing! In February, InstantAmber is committed to helping families travel safely. <a href="http://instantamber.com/news/safety-when-traveling-with-children/">Click here</a> to read more about <a href="http://instantamber.com/news/safety-when-traveling-with-children/">Safety when Traveling with Children</a> and how InstantAmber can help. Unfortunately, missing children emergencies on vacation are a reality, as in the case of Brittanee Drexel. Please help us bring her home safely. <br />
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<img height="144" width="192" alt="" src="http://instantamber.com/boltuploads/image/brittanee-drexel.png" />Brittanee Marie Drexel (pictured right) was last seen leaving a hotel in Myrtle Beach, SC on April 25, 2009 where she was spending spring break. Drexel was 17 years old when she disappeared; she had blonde highlighted hair, was 5 feet tall and weighed approximately 100 pounds. According to <a href="http://helpfindbrittanee.com/" target="_blank">http://helpfindbrittanee.com/</a>, &amp;quot;Brittanee and her friends were staying at the Bar Harbor Hotel at 1010 North Ocean Boulevard in downtown Myrtle. She last spoke with her mother, Dawn Drexel, at 2:00 p.m. Saturday and also telephoned her boyfriend at 8:00 p.m. that night.&amp;quot;</p>
<p>In January 2010 volunteers and law enforcement conducted a search in the area around her suspected disappearance. Last week, a private detective was hired to investigate the case. <br />
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If you have any information on this case, please contact the Myrtle Beach Police Department 1-843-918-1300 or the National Center for Missing &amp;amp; Exploited Children at: 1-800-THE-LOST.</p> ]]></description>
<pubDate>Tue, 16 Feb 2010 00:00:00 -0500</pubDate>
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<title>Sleepovers… Should You or Shouldn’t You?</title>
<link>http://instantamber.com/news/sleepovers-should-you-or-shouldnt-you/</link>
<description><![CDATA[ <p><strong>By Pattie Fitzgerald, Founder <a href="http://safelyeverafter.com/" target="_blank">Safely Ever After, Inc.</a></strong><br />
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It&amp;rsquo;s the age-old question, but like most things in life, there simply isn&amp;rsquo;t one &amp;ldquo;right&amp;rdquo; way&amp;nbsp; to do things when it comes to our kids.<br />
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Sleepovers can be a fun &amp;ldquo;rite of childhood passage&amp;rdquo;.&amp;nbsp; Personally, I can remember some terrific (and safe!) slumber parties with my close friends.&amp;nbsp; These experiences were part of a wonderful childhood, and many parents would like their own kids to be able to enjoy the same.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; <br />
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Yet, sleepovers can also be a slippery slope just by their very nature, and it&amp;rsquo;s certainly appropriate for parents to have legitimate concerns.&amp;nbsp; We&amp;rsquo;ve all heard stories about children being molested while at a sleepover.&amp;nbsp; And yet many other children will enjoy sleepovers without anything bad ever happening.&amp;nbsp; <br />
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Instead of offering one &amp;ldquo;absolute&amp;rdquo; about sleepovers, my perspective is&amp;hellip; <strong>sometimes yes and sometimes no.</strong><br />
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Is the <u>sleepover</u> itself really to blame?&amp;nbsp; </strong><br />
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Not necessarily.&amp;nbsp; But, sleepovers can provide a molester or perpetrator easier access to a child than a typical play-date during the day.<br />
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<img height="238" align="left" width="244" src="http://instantamber.com/boltuploads/image/sleepover.png" alt="sleepover safety" />So&amp;hellip; what&amp;rsquo;s the difference? </strong><br />
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For starters, the very nature of a sleepover<strong> IS</strong> different than a daytime play-date.&amp;nbsp; Once the kids are in their beds or sleeping bags, there is a quiet, vulnerable atmosphere when children can be caught off-guard if approached by another adult, or possibly even the older sibling of their friend.&amp;nbsp; In this quiet environment, a child might be less likely to shout out for help, or even yell out a good, strong <strong>&amp;ldquo;STOP IT!&amp;rdquo;</strong>, for fear of waking the others.&amp;nbsp; The child may feel &amp;ldquo;trapped&amp;rdquo; and not know how to get away from the perpetrator.&amp;nbsp; Lastly, during a sleepover, there may be more of an opportunity for a molester to victimize a child, simply because they can wait until everyone else is asleep.<br />
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That&amp;rsquo;s why it&amp;rsquo;s important to talk specifically with your child about sleepover issues, <u>before</u> you make your decision.<br />
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<strong>Is the solution &amp;ldquo;No sleepovers &amp;ndash; ever?&amp;rdquo;</strong><br />
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That&amp;rsquo;s one way to solve the problem and it&amp;rsquo;s certainly a parent&amp;rsquo;s right to ban sleepovers if you choose.&amp;nbsp; But, some parents may feel differently based on their own experiences or parenting styles.&amp;nbsp; They may want to allow occasional sleepovers depending on certain circumstances.&amp;nbsp; <strong>That&amp;rsquo;s okay too,</strong> provided you arm your children with clear safety instructions before ever allowing them to spend the night at another home.<br />
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Safeguarding a Sleepover &amp;ndash; A Parent&amp;rsquo;s Role</strong><br />
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Before allowing your child to spend the night at any friend&amp;rsquo;s home, you will need to have specific conversations regarding <strong>&amp;ldquo;good touch/bad touch/confusing touch.&amp;rdquo;</strong>&amp;nbsp; You&amp;rsquo;ll need to pose some <strong>&amp;ldquo;what if&amp;rdquo;</strong> questions, to be sure your child knows how to react to anything that feels uncomfortable or &amp;ldquo;yucky.&amp;rdquo;&amp;nbsp; <strong>There are many variables which can determine if a household is safe for a sleepover.&amp;nbsp;</strong> You might be comfortable letting your child spend the night at one friend&amp;rsquo;s home, yet another home may be completely out of the question.<br />
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<strong>Run through the check list below,</strong> which will help you evaluate if this sleepover is a &amp;ldquo;safe scenario&amp;rdquo; or not.&amp;nbsp; Consider who else may be at that home&amp;hellip; for example, other relatives or adult friends?&amp;nbsp; Is the older sibling also having a friend sleep over, do the parents have the same feelings that you do regarding the use of alcohol or other substances &amp;ndash; particularly when children are around? <br />
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<strong>Questions to consider:</strong><br />
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1.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Do you know everyone who lives at the home?&amp;nbsp; <br />
2.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Does anyone at this home give you an uncomfortable or &amp;ldquo;uh-oh&amp;rdquo; feeling?<br />
3.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Will the parents be home or are they having a babysitter in for the night?&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; <br />
&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; (If so, who is the sitter and what do you know about them?)<br />
4.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Are other children going to spend the night as well?<br />
5.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Are the supervising parents having their own adult friends over?&amp;nbsp; <br />
6.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Will the children be staying in all night or is there an outing or activity planned for <br />
&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; earlier in the evening (such as dinner out, bowling, or a movie)?<br />
7.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Will your child need to take a bath there?&amp;nbsp; If so, who will be helping them?<br />
&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; (Note:&amp;nbsp; the smartest choice is for the child to bathe at home before going).<br />
8.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Have you told your child that they can call you at anytime, no matter what, if they <br />
&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; feel uncomfortable or scared and that you&amp;rsquo;ll pick them up right away?&amp;nbsp; <br />
&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; *Even in the middle of the night!<br />
9.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Are you able to discuss safety concerns with the supervising parent(s) without <br />
&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; worrying about what they might think of you?<br />
10.&amp;nbsp; Do the other parents make you feel guilty for asking questions, or try to minimize&amp;nbsp; <br />
&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; your concerns by teasing you or not taking you seriously?<br />
11.&amp;nbsp; Is your child generally able to speak up for themselves when they feel <br />
&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; uncomfortable or uneasy?<br />
12.&amp;nbsp; Have you taught your child to trust their instincts and to listen to their <br />
&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; own &amp;ldquo;inner voice&amp;rdquo;?<br />
13.&amp;nbsp; Have you discussed what to do if someone tries to touch them in an <br />
&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; uncomfortable or unsafe manner?&amp;nbsp; <br />
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<strong><em><img height="180" align="left" width="135" src="http://instantamber.com/boltuploads/image/Pattie.jpg" alt="Pattie Fitzgerald Safely Ever After" /></em></strong><strong><em>About the author</em></strong><br />
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Pattie Fitzgerald is recognized as a leading expert in the field of childhood sexual abuse prevention.&amp;nbsp; She is certified as a Level One Agent and Child Safety Educator through the National Security Alliance/Kid-Safe Network, and previously worked as the original Community Outreach Educator for the national child advocacy agency, <strong><em>Parents For Megan&amp;rsquo;s Law</em></strong>.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; <br />
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In 2007 she became a guest instructor for the <strong>Los Angeles Sheriff&amp;rsquo;s M.E.R.I.T.</strong> program and her workshops and curriculum are used at schools throughout the United States.&amp;nbsp; Her published works have appeared in newspapers, national magazines, and trade journals throughout the country, and she has been featured on Good Morning America, CNN Headlines News, MSNBC, and local Los Angeles television and radio news programs.&amp;nbsp; She is a member of the American Professional Society On The Abuse of Children and the International Society of Crime Prevention Practitioners.<br />
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<pubDate>Wed, 10 Feb 2010 00:00:00 -0500</pubDate>
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<title>Safety When Traveling with Children</title>
<link>http://instantamber.com/news/safety-when-traveling-with-children/</link>
<description><![CDATA[ <p>Family vacations create lifelong happy memories for kids and parents. They provide a good opportunity for fun, bonding and relaxation. As enjoyable and carefree vacations can be, they also pose risks for children&amp;rsquo;s physical safety and children are more likely to get lost or go missing. These risks are preventable so as parents make travel arrangements for spring break and summer vacation it is critical to be aware of travel safety and plan ahead accordingly.</p>
<p><strong>Driving</strong><br />
Although many parents drive children on a regular basis it is critical to take extra precautions when riding in the car for a long time period and making stops at unfamiliar locations along the way. Of course, when driving with children always use the appropriate car seats, child restraints and seatbelts for the child&amp;rsquo;s size and age. Recheck car seat&amp;rsquo;s weight restrictions regularly, especially before long trips. Use sunscreens or window protectors to block sun. Make sure necessities are within the drivers reach so they can give snacks or toys to children without compromising their driving ability.<br />
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<img hspace="10" height="146" align="left" width="180" src="http://instantamber.com/boltuploads/image/safety when traveling with children(1).jpg" alt="kids car safety" />Make frequent stops to use the restroom and stretch. While it&amp;rsquo;s important to encourage children to stretch and move around, don&amp;rsquo;t allow them to run off or get distracted by anything.&amp;nbsp; such as a stranger&amp;rsquo;s puppy. Keep children close by and make sure they know to not talk to strangers. Children can easily get distracted by something such as a stranger&amp;rsquo;s puppy or another child but even seemingly innocent situations can be dangerous. <br />
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If there is more than one adult, designate partners for stops so adults know which children they will be responsible for. If necessary, make arrangements and explain to children about using the restroom, for example if a little boy will have to go to the ladies room with mom. When available, use family restrooms when available. <br />
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Stranger safety is even more important when traveling by bus or train. If available, use seatbelts, car seats or child restraining device at all times. Do not allow children to walk around freely around bus or train aisles. Keep children within reach at all times particularly in bus or train stations. <br />
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<strong>Flying</strong><br />
Flying can be a scary and exciting experience for children. Parents need to be prepared to deal with checkpoints, crowded airport terminals and in-flight safety. <br />
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At checkpoints, parents need to remember that everyone, regardless of age has to be screened. Officers are specially trained and they will not ask parents to do anything that will separate them from their children. If a child can walk on their own, they should go through the x-ray machine alone. If a child cannot walk, parents may carry the child through but send all blankets, pacifiers and toys through the machine. During this process, parents should not attempt to hand their children to anyone else, even a security officer.<br />
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Parents should check children&amp;rsquo;s carry-on bags before going into the airport and make sure they didn&amp;rsquo;t sneak in any last-minute unapproved items or liquids, which may cause hang-ups while going through security. Children often get afraid and don&amp;rsquo;t want to put their belongings through the machine. This is something that parents can practice with children at home before leaving.<br />
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Safety is critical in the airport terminal because it&amp;rsquo;s often crowded, making it an easy place for children to get lost. Guardians need to avoid getting distracted and watch children at all time, taking steps such as arriving at the airport early and having IDs and tickets handy will help. <br />
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Parents should talk to children prior to traveling about what to do in the event they get lost or separated. For older children, it may be beneficial to point out security officers or introduce them to an officer so they can recognize their uniform in an emergency. Parents can also give older children an airport map and mark where the gate is, as well as restrooms or other important landmarks.<br />
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<img hspace="10" height="231" align="left" width="231" src="http://instantamber.com/boltuploads/image/flying with kids.jpg" alt="child restraint system" />On the plane, the safest place for child during turbulence or an emergency is in an approved child restraint system (CRS) or device. Children that weigh less than 40lbs need to be in an approved child restraint system (CRS). Make sure children over 40lbs keep safety belt buckled at all times.<br />
&amp;nbsp;FAA strongly encourages (but doesn&amp;rsquo;t require) the use of a car seat, less than 16&amp;rdquo; wide or an FAA child approved harness restraint (as seen in image). Make sure the car seat is government approved and says &amp;quot;This restraint is certified for use in motor vehicles and aircraft&amp;ldquo;. The harness restraints are easier to travel with than a hard-backed car seat and accommodate children over 20lbs. The harness should say &amp;quot;FAA Approved in Accordance with 14CFR 21.305(d), Approved for Aircraft Use Only&amp;quot;.&amp;nbsp; Children should not sit in the aisle seat because they could get hurt if they put their arms or legs in the aisle. <br />
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<strong>At Destination</strong><br />
Parents need to continue to be aware of child safety once at the final destination. Parents should toddler-proof the accommodations if necessary as they would their own home. They also need to check hotel provided cribs for loose parts or hardware and make sure the bedding is soft and doesn&amp;rsquo;t pose a risk of suffocation.<br />
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<img hspace="10" height="164" align="right" width="245" src="http://instantamber.com/boltuploads/image/beach picture.jpg" alt="beach safety" />There are a lot of hazards to be aware of at the beach, everyone knows to be prepared with first aid, sunscreen and life jackets. Parents also need to be aware of where children are at all times, especially if it&amp;rsquo;s crowded. Groups can determine a system of who is watching which children. This ensures everyone knows who is in the water and that nobody wanders off. It&amp;rsquo;s easy for a child to go missing if everyone is spread out or adults assume someone else is watching a certain child.<br />
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At amusement parks, museums or other crowded attractions, children should be dressed in bright-colored clothing so that they are easier to spot. Consider using a child safety leash or harness to keep children nearby. New child locator devices, such as Nanonavi Nanomatic available in our Child Safety Store help locate children if they get separated.&amp;nbsp; The InstantAmber Finder is a small device that fits into a child&amp;rsquo;s pocket or backpack. The device uses state-of-the-art location technology including aGPS/GSM and is the best means for locating a child if they get separated. <br />
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Parents may want to establish different rules for older kids and teenagers. Oftentimes older kids want to go off on their own on vacation but age doesn&amp;rsquo;t equate to safety. If they have cell phones, use the nanonavi mobile application to keep up with family member&amp;rsquo;s locations. Parents can also give kids maps of the resort or amusement park, make sure they wearing correctly set watches (note time zone changes) and determine regular &amp;ldquo;check in&amp;rdquo; meeting places and times. <br />
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InstantAmber and Safe Travels</strong> <br />
The most important thing to pack when traveling with children is InstantAmber. Update your children&amp;rsquo;s data and images before you leave home and take peace of mind on your trip.<br />
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<img hspace="10" height="203" align="left" width="301" src="http://instantamber.com/boltuploads/image/instantamber and traveling.jpg" alt="traveling with instantamber" />Don&amp;rsquo;t leave home without InstantAmber. Parents can upload and securely store data and photos vital to law enforcement's recovery efforts in the event that their child goes missing. Law enforcement can access critical data and photos in seconds, not minutes or hours, dramatically increasing the odds of successfully recovering a missing child. There is nothing to carry, forget or lose. The information and photos are accessible worldwide, 24/7. Parents get the peace of mind that they have taken every precaution and are as prepared as possible in the event that their child goes missing.<br />
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<description><![CDATA[ <p><strong>Update-- Missing Child Found, Safe<br />
</strong>Police found Christian Guevera was found in an Atlanta apartment complex, late Thursday afternoon. They arrested three men and one woman in the abduction case. The kidnappers demanded random from Christian&amp;rsquo;s mother which makes investigators believe they knew his mother had insurance money from the father&amp;rsquo;s death. <br />
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Thursday, February 04, 2010</strong> 4-year old Christian Guevera was abducted from his home in Atlanta, Georgia. His mother reports that she returned home from running an errand and was assaulted by two Latino men in ski masks, shortly before 9am. They assaulted her with a stun gun, took the child and drove away in a white Chevrolet Suburban. Investigators are currently looking for clues around the Village Mobile Home Park where the assault and kidnapping took place. <br />
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<img height="153" align="left" width="204" alt="Missing Christian Guevera" src="http://instantamber.com/boltuploads/image/chrisitan guevera.jpg" />The missing child, 4-year old Chrisitan Guevera was wearing pajamas with cars printed on them, is approximately 3 feet tall, weighs 30-lbs and has brown eyes and brown hair. If you have any information about the missing child, the vehicle or the suspects, please call 911 with details.&amp;nbsp;</p>
<p>Family photo from Atlanta Journal-Constitution. Visit <a href="http://ajc.com" target="_blank">ajc.com</a> for the latest news.</p> ]]></description>
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<description><![CDATA[ <p><strong>Update- March 9, 2010<br />
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<em>Elizabeth Johnson Charged</em></strong><br />
Elizabeth Johnson is scheduled to appear before the judge on Tuesday, March 9. She is being charged with child abuse, kidnapping, attempted custodial interference and custodial interference in connection with the disappearance of baby Gabriel Johnson. The 9-month old baby was last seen on December 26, 2009. Meanwhile, baby Gabriel&amp;rsquo;s father continues to search for his son in San Antonio with private investigator Jay J. Armes. <strong><br />
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Update- February 16, 2010<br />
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<em>Search Continues <br />
</em></strong><img height="268" align="right" width="215" alt="missing baby gabriel" src="http://instantamber.com/boltuploads/image/baby gabriel.jpg" />The search for baby Gabriel Johnson continues in a San Antonio landfill. The search has been delayed due to weather but is expected to continue. Police, FBI and US Marshal's Service are all participating in the search for the baby that was last seen December 26, 2009 with his mother Elizabeth Johnson. Investigators are focused on finding a missing diaper bag-- the only item of Gabriel's that Johnson did not leave behind in the hotel room. Dozens of leads continue to come in everyday.<br />
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Update- February 3, 2010<br />
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<em>Person of Interest Tammi Smith Arrested &amp;amp; Released</em><br />
</strong>Tempe police arrested &amp;ldquo;person of interest&amp;rdquo; in the missing baby Gabriel case, Tammi Smith, 37 on counts of forgery, custodial interference and conspiracy to commit custodial interference. Smith is accused of providing Gabriel&amp;rsquo;s mother, Elizabeth Johnson with adoption advice. In hopes of adopting the baby herself, Smith is also accused of &amp;ldquo;bullying&amp;rdquo; the baby&amp;rsquo;s father Logan McQueary to sign over his custodial rights via threatening text messages and phone calls. Police do not believe Smith has anything to do with the baby&amp;rsquo;s disappearance or has any information about where baby Gabriel is. Tammi Smith was released on Wednesday morning. <strong><br />
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<em>Search Continues for Baby Gabriel Johnson</em><br />
</strong>Internationally known private investigator Jay J. Armes has now taken on the baby Gabriel case. Armes has met with the baby&amp;rsquo;s father McQueary and they are prepared to retrace Elizabeth Johnson&amp;rsquo;s journey and figure out where she got separated from Gabriel in San Antonio. Searches for baby Gabriel&amp;rsquo;s body continue at local landfills but Armes believes the baby is still alive. <br />
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<em>Elizabeth Johnson Pleads Not Guilty in Missing Child Case</em><br />
</strong>Baby Gabriel Johnson&amp;rsquo;s mother Elizabeth Johnson pleaded not guilty in court on Monday January 25 on charges of conspiracy to commit custodial interference and custodial interference. In addition, Ms. Johnson is being charged for kidnapping and child abuse. Searches continue for the missing baby.<strong><br />
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Update- January 19, 2010<br />
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<em>New Photos of Missing Baby</em><br />
</strong>As of January 19, 2010, the search continues for 8-month old Gabriel Johnson. New photos of the baby have been released, believed to be taken as late as December 26, 2009 with Elizabeth Johnson&amp;rsquo;s camera. The police are concerned because the baby appears to be extremely tired and holding some sort of medicine bottle. The photographs and lack of evidence are causing investigators concern, and they conducting parallel investigations because they do not know whether baby Gabriel is alive or dead.<strong><br />
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Update- January 14, 2010</strong><br />
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<em><strong>The Smiths Visit Mother of Missing Child in Jail</strong></em><br />
The Smiths (see below, &amp;ldquo;Persons of Interest&amp;rdquo;) visited Elizabeth Johnson in jail on Wednesday. After speaking to Johnson, Mrs. Smith is sure that baby Gabriel is still alive. She reports that Johnson described more details about the appearances of the young, Caucasian couple she gave the baby to. Smith went on to say, &amp;ldquo;According to Elizabeth, these people are going to try and hide this baby&amp;rdquo;. <br />
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<strong>Update- January 13, 2010</strong><br />
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<em><strong>Reward for Information about Missing Child Case</strong></em><br />
A news release from the Tempe Police Department announced that there is now a $5,000 reward for information leading to the safe return of Gabriel Johnson. If you have any information about this case, please call San Antonio Crime Stoppers at 210-224-STOP (7867).&amp;nbsp; There is also a national tip line through the National Center for Missing &amp;amp; Exploited Children, call (800) THE-LOST (843-5678).</p>
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<em><strong>Baby Gabriel&amp;rsquo;s Disappearance </strong></em><br />
Gabriel Johnson, born May 3, 2009, was last seen on December 26, 2009 in San Antonio, Texas with his mother 23 year-old Elizabeth Johnson of Tempe, Arizona. Eight-month old baby Gabriel was officially missing the next day when his biological father, 25 year-old Logan McQueary, received text messages from the mother that she had killed the baby and dropped him in a dumpster. Elizabeth Johnson was arrested in Miami Beach on December 29. Ms. Johnson then changed her story and said she gave baby Gabriel to a couple she met in Texas that seemed &amp;ldquo;trustworthy&amp;rdquo;. <br />
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As of January 11, 2010, police believe that baby Gabriel is still alive. They have received information that Ms. Johnson attempted to sell or give away her son. <br />
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</em><img hspace="10" height="250" border="5" align="left" width="238" vspace="10" alt="missing baby gabriel" src="http://instantamber.com/boltuploads/image/baby gabriel johnson.jpg" /><em><strong>The Smiths</strong>: <strong>Persons of Interest</strong></em><br />
Last Thursday, Jack and Tammi Peters Smith became &amp;lsquo;persons of interest&amp;rsquo; in the case because of their connection to the Johnsons. The Smiths, of Scottsdale, Arizona, approached distressed Elizabeth and then one-month Gabriel at the Indianapolis airport last spring. Ms. Johnson talked to them about needing help with the baby and took their contact information. <br />
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The couple did not hear from Ms. Johnson until months later on the evening of December 8, 2009. She contacted them to see if they were interested in adopting Gabriel because she didn&amp;rsquo;t want the father to get custody. The Smiths kept Gabriel in temporary custody for eight days. McQueary, the biological father would not grant legal permission to terminate his parental rights. Johnson took the baby back from the Smiths allegedly to follow the court order and give him to McQueary. The Smiths have stated that they were not involved in baby Gabriel&amp;rsquo;s disappearance and do not have any information about where he is.&amp;nbsp; <br />
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<em>Elizabeth Johnson&amp;rsquo;s Next Move</em></strong><br />
After getting Gabriel back from the Smiths, Ms. Johnson drove with him to Texas, where she says she now gave the baby to another couple who approached her in a park before continuing on to Miami Beach, where she was first arrested. She now being help by Tempe police on a $1 million cash bail and being charged with kidnap and abuse.<br />
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Police continue to say they are receiving indications that baby Gabriel is still alive. Anyone with information about Gabriel Johnson is asked to call the Tempe Police Department at 480-350-8311.<br />
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<strong>Preparing for missing child emergencies</strong><br />
Nearly 1,000,000 children are reported missing every year in the US. Children go missing for a variety of reasons: they get lost, get separated for their parents, run away and, unfortunately, are abducted. One way or another, children are going to go missing. There&amp;rsquo;s a 1 in 42 chance that your child will go missing before the age of 19. InstantAmber&amp;rsquo;s goal is to increase the number of recovered children. <br />
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InstantAmber is the ground-breaking child safety service of the 2010s. It&amp;rsquo;s an easy to use web-based service that is inexpensive and secure. <a href="http://instantamber.com/signup" target="_blank">Sign-up today</a> with promo code &amp;ldquo;<strong>January 2010</strong>&amp;rdquo; and save $30 a year.</p> ]]></description>
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<title>Children Travel Safety Webinar</title>
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<description><![CDATA[ <p>InstantAmber is proud to present free webinars hosted by <a href="https://instantamber.webex.com/" target="_blank">WebEx</a>. Matt Berman, founder of InstantAmber and child safety expert, will be hosting a webinar next week. Our aim with the brief half-hour session is to discuss issues facing parents today and how InstantAmber can help. We will also review InstantAmber&amp;rsquo;s service and the independent sales rep program for <a href="https://instantamber.com/team/" target="_blank">Community Safety Coordinators</a>. The webinar will end with a question and answer session.<br />
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Since families are beginning to make spring break plans, next week&amp;rsquo;s webinar will focus on <strong>&amp;ldquo;Safety when Traveling with Children&amp;rdquo;</strong>.&amp;nbsp; Anybody is welcome to attend the webinar and there are two opportunities to attend&amp;mdash;Tuesday, February 2 at 8pm CST or Wednesday, February 3 at 11am CST. Follow the instructions below to join the webinar. Email <a href="mailto:marketing@instantamber.com?subject=Webinar%20Question">marketing@instantamber.com</a> with any questions. <br />
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<strong>Tuesday, February 2, 2010 </strong><br />
Time: 8:00 pm, Central Standard Time (Chicago, GMT-06:00) <br />
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Wednesday, February 3, 2010 </strong><br />
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<title>Child Molesters Love Polite Kids</title>
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<description><![CDATA[ <p><strong>By Pattie Fitzgerald, Founder <a target="_blank" href="http://safelyeverafter.com/">Safely Ever After, Inc.</a></strong><br />
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How many times have you told your child to always obey the grownups?&amp;nbsp;<br />
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Have you insisted that they hug or kiss &amp;ldquo;Uncle Johnny&amp;rdquo; or that family friend or relative who visits every holiday, even though your child obviously feels uncomfortable doing so?<br />
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Of course every parent wants to make sure they aren&amp;rsquo;t raising rude, obnoxious kids.&amp;nbsp; But it can be a dangerous message we give our children when we insist that they deny their instincts, and force them to be polite so that we, the parent, can save face. <br />
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<strong>It can be especially risky to insist that they express physical affection when they are clearly uncomfortable doing so.</strong><br />
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Why?</strong></em><br />
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Because one of the most important things we can teach our kids when it comes to their personal safety is to LISTEN to that inner barometer, their INSTINCT&amp;hellip;a.k.a. &amp;ldquo;the uh-oh feeling&amp;rdquo;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; <br />
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<strong>It&amp;rsquo;s not about </strong>being suspicious of every relative who wants to hug our kids.&amp;nbsp; <br />
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<strong>It is about</strong> letting your child decide HOW they want to express affection and to whom, rather than forcing them to please others.&amp;nbsp; <br />
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<em><strong>Why?</strong></em><br />
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Because they may be getting an &amp;ldquo;uh-oh feeling&amp;rdquo;&amp;nbsp; that you&amp;rsquo;re unaware of.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Maybe earlier in the evening Uncle Johnny said or did something that felt &amp;ldquo;yucky&amp;rdquo; to your child which you&amp;rsquo;re oblivious to.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Later on, when it&amp;rsquo;s time to go home, you insist that your daughter kiss Uncle Johnny goodbye, demanding it when she flat out refuses. <br />
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<strong>The message your child gets: </strong><br />
1) Don&amp;rsquo;t trust your own instincts. <br />
2) You have to obey the grownups no matter what.<br />
3) Mom/Dad will not believe you if you tell them about an uncomfortable feeling or touch because you haven&amp;rsquo;t got the right to speak up for yourself.<br />
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The message Uncle Johnny gets:</strong><br />
Jackpot!&amp;nbsp; Here&amp;rsquo;s a target &amp;mdash; a child who&amp;rsquo;s been taught to be polite no matter what the circumstances.&amp;nbsp; Here&amp;rsquo;s a child who probably won&amp;rsquo;t&amp;nbsp; know how to resist an inappropriate touch or have the ability to tell anyone about it!&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; At the next gathering,&amp;nbsp; he decides he may be able to go a little further with his behavior because you&amp;rsquo;ve basically laid the ground work out for him already.&amp;nbsp; <br />
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And so&amp;hellip; the grooming process begins.<br />
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Clearly, there will be times when your child just doesn&amp;rsquo;t want to hug or kiss someone.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; It doesn&amp;rsquo;t necessarily mean it&amp;rsquo;s because the person&amp;rsquo;s a child molester.&amp;nbsp; Maybe Uncle Johnny smells funny, maybe he hugs too tightly and it hurts.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Or maybe it&amp;rsquo;s something more serious.&amp;nbsp; <br />
&amp;nbsp;Whatever the reason&amp;hellip; your child should have the right to say NO.<br />
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Instead, what usually happens is that we&amp;rsquo;re &amp;ldquo;on the spot&amp;rdquo;, we don&amp;rsquo;t know what to do, so we force our kid to give a kiss and get it over with so we can go home already!<br />
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Blech!&amp;nbsp; Imagine being that child, hoping Mom or Dad is going to help them out of this sticky situation only to find that you won&amp;rsquo;t.&amp;nbsp; Even worse&amp;hellip; from now on here&amp;rsquo;s a child who will question herself, not trusting her own instincts because she&amp;rsquo;s been instructed not to.<br />
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If we really want to give our children a gift this holiday season&amp;hellip; <strong>Let them decide how they want to express affection and to whom.</strong>&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Don&amp;rsquo;t force them to, because it makes you feel better.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; And back them up when they need it.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; That&amp;rsquo;s the gift of a lifetime.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; For more information, please visit <a target="_blank" href="http://safelyeverafter.com/">www.safelyeverafter.com</a>.<br />
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<strong><em><img height="180" align="left" width="135" alt="Pattie Fitzgerald Safely Ever After" src="http://instantamber.com/boltuploads/image/Pattie.jpg" /></em></strong><strong><em>About the author</em></strong><br />
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Pattie Fitzgerald is recognized as a leading expert in the field of childhood sexual abuse prevention.&amp;nbsp; She is certified as a Level One Agent and Child Safety Educator through the National Security Alliance/Kid-Safe Network, and previously worked as the original Community Outreach Educator for the national child advocacy agency, <strong><em>Parents For Megan&amp;rsquo;s Law</em></strong>.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; <br />
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In 2007 she became a guest instructor for the <strong>Los Angeles Sheriff&amp;rsquo;s M.E.R.I.T.</strong> program and her workshops and curriculum are used at schools throughout the United States.&amp;nbsp; Her published works have appeared in newspapers, national magazines, and trade journals throughout the country, and she has been featured on Good Morning America, CNN Headlines News, MSNBC, and local Los Angeles television and radio news programs.&amp;nbsp; She is a member of the American Professional Society On The Abuse of Children and the International Society of Crime Prevention Practitioners.&amp;nbsp;</p> ]]></description>
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<description><![CDATA[ <p><strong>By Alison Lewis, <a target="_blank" href="http://www.ingredientsinc.net/">Ingredients, Inc. </a></strong><br />
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My kids love Banana Bread so when we have overripe bananas they always get put to good use. My oldest son, Alec, has really taken to cooking lately (i hope he&amp;rsquo;s not going to be mad I wrote this). I was so busy in the kitchen tonight with lasagna and spaghetti that I said, &amp;ldquo;Why don&amp;rsquo;t you make it yourself?&amp;rdquo; He took a recipe of mine and modified it using no mixer, one bowl and stirred it all together at once. He substituted Greek yogurt for the buttermilk, and it came out great! He was so surprised and proud when it was came out of the oven, and I was really excited and impressed. It&amp;rsquo;s a great recipe. I hope it is one of many of his to come.<br />
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<strong>Low-Fat Banana Bread</strong><br />
Cook: 50 minutes<br />
Yield: 12 to 14 servings<br />
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<strong><a href="http://www.ingredientsinc.net/2010/01/one-bowl-no-mixer-low-fat-banana-bread-with-greek-yogurt/"><img height="187" align="left" width="280" src="http://instantamber.com/boltuploads/image/banana bread.jpg" alt="Low fat banana bread" /></a></strong><strong>Ingredients</strong><br />
2 cups all-purpose flour<br />
1 cup sugar<br />
3/4 teaspoon baking soda<br />
1/2 teaspoon salt<br />
1/4 cup butter, softened<br />
2 large eggs<br />
11/2 cups mashed ripe banana (about 3 bananas)<br />
1/3 cup nonfat Greek yogurt (I used Fage)<br />
1 teaspoon vanilla extract<br />
Cooking spray<br />
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Preparation</strong><br />
1. Preheat oven to 350&amp;deg;.<br />
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2. Lightly spoon flour into dry measuring cups; level with a knife. Combine flour, sugar, baking soda, salt, butter, eggs, bananas, yogurt and vanilla in a large bowl, mixing well. Pour batter into an 8 1/2 x 4 1/2-inch loaf pan coated with cooking spray. Bake at 350&amp;deg; for 50 minutes to 1 hour or until a wooden pick inserted in center comes out clean. Cool 10 minutes in pan on a wire rack; remove from pan. Cool completely on wire rack.<br />
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